What have you done to get “Unfriended”? Lately, someone unfriended me because I said their dinner was racist.
“That what I hate about Facebook. If you said that to someone in real life, they’d think it was funny.” – My friend Dave.
I have this one friend who is a little neurotic. He’s ‘stopped talking’ to me for years at a time because he’s been mad over things I’ve said or done from here to here.
First time was because I didn’t help him move. Second time was over me missing a WWE House Show.. Now, because I said his wife’s Indian food was cultural appropriation.
So the latter being sort of a joke. I mean, I actually do believe that if you engage in cultural tourism, it can be racist. But she posts a picture of Indian food and I said “it’s racist! What’s next.. wearing a bindi?” Very much like my last blog.
I found out that she blocked me a few days later when my wife sent me a picture of her and I was unable to view it. That was all, until I blogged about the food topic. Maybe they thought it was about them, because I got this message the next day.
The exchange went like this:
I went on to ask him to send me a list of appropriate topics.. and then he blocked me… and then he blocked my wife.. and then his wife blocked my wife.
Then I was like:
WHAT’S A BIRD TABLE!?!?
But, you know… it kind of bothers me. I’ve known this fellow for 30 years. He was angry at me before because I was unable to remove a video from youtube that he’s on. He’s changed his online name so “work” won’t be able to find him. So, he’s very touchy about online life.
You know the type, right? Always mad at someone online.. Basically always involved in #socialmediaDRAMA..
Huffington Post wrote a blog about it:
3. Unfriend (or unfollow) people whose sharing is draining or overwhelming you.
>>>I know this one may be controversial, but I believe it’s controversial only because of the importance we’ve allowed Facebook to have in our lives. In offline communications, many people choose to steer clear of polarizing topics with certain friends and family members; limiting this kind of interaction on social media can be helpful for both preventing overwhelm and preserving relationships. Many people share violent imagery and articles to raise awareness about causes that matter to them. If you know these are upsetting to you or will overwhelm you, limit the types of these posts in your newsfeed. We don’t need to see every gory detail of a tragedy in order to care about it.<<>>The study, published this month by the Hawaii International Conference on System Sciences, was based on 582 survey responses gathered via Twitter. Sibona found six factors that predicted whether someone would avoid a person who unfriended them.
If the person discussed the event after it happened.
If the emotional response to the unfriending was extremely negative.
If the person unfriended believed the action was due to offline behavior.
The geographical distance between the two.
If the troubled relationship was discussed prior to the unfriending.
How strong the person valued the relationship before the unfriending.<<>>Published in the journal Personality and Social Psychology, researchers found that insecure, anxious people were more likely to brag about their relationships on Facebook. On the days “when people felt more insecure about their partner’s feelings, they tended to make their relationships visible.”
Facebook allows people to portray a certain image of themselves, and sometimes this differs from reality. “People can choose what image of themselves to convey on Facebook, so it’s intriguing that people seem to emphasize their relationships in that image when they’re feeling insecure about them,” says Lydia Emery, one of the study’s authors and graduate student in the Ph.D. program at Northwestern University in Illinois.<<>>insert it’s a trap meme later<<<
If you are so sensitive.. why post things for the world to see? Maybe it's better if you're one of those weirdos without an online presence. Then you won't have to worry about old youtube videos.
Or you can always, as the french say "grow a pair."